Are you believing the LIES?!?

Are you believing the LIES?!?

I grew up believing that life happened TO me. I was simply a victim lost in the shuffle of events that I couldn’t control.

Abused as a child, absent parents, bullied, no real friends… the list goes on.

I believed that I was unwanted, unloveable and unworthy of being happy. I believed that I was a waste of space and air.

I know now that those beliefs are untrue and have been holding me back for such a long time.

I’ve learned that what I believed about myself, the things I was speaking over myself, the things that other people spoke over me to the point that I began to adopt them as my own beliefs were creating my reality.

So my belief of being unworthy of happiness was creating that in my day to day life. Those events just fuelled more negative self talk which kept the cycle going.

Believing in yourself is a million times more important than anyone else believing in you and there’s actually science to prove it.

Yeah, turns out that when you believe in yourself, you are kicking into gear many different psychological processes that help you to achieve your goals, manifest your dream and increase your well-being.

And it’s not as cut and dry as many think. There are actually 5 different components of believing in yourself. They are: Self Worth, Self Confidence, Self Trust, Autonomy, Environmental Mastery.

Stay tuned because we’ll dive into these more later but for now, let’s sit with the idea of simply believing in yourself.

What are the things that you believe about yourself that maybe you don’t even give conscious thoughts to anymore that are creating your reality? These things that people have spoken over you in years gone by that you somewhere along the line adopted them as your own beliefs?

Do you believe that you are worthy of happiness and love? Or do you believe that you are unworthy of those things?

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Why Changing Your Life Is The Best Possible Scenario

Why Changing Your Life Is The Best Possible Scenario

Metamorphosis.

Have you ever stopped and really considered just how amazing the concept of metamorphosis is?

I mean, really?

It’s the process where a caterpillar transforms from a caterpillar into a butterfly or moth.

Both are complete in their own right but the caterpillar can only go so far and a butterfly or moth can only go so far. Together, they create a beautiful journey.

This is a beautiful comparison to think of when you think about big life change.

When you’re someone who has lived life one way for a long time and then an event changes everything for the better and you change to fit into this new version of yourself.

I’ve been on a metamorphosis journey over the past number of years. Perhaps even before I realized I was changing.

I carried my childhood trauma with me everywhere I went and in some ways I still do. It has shaped the person I have become.

For a long time, I used it as a shield to protect me from more bad things (and good things) from happening.

It took me a long time and a lot of heart work to see that my childhood and my shield were like my caterpillar stage. They served a purpose but they could only take me so far.

Over the past few years, I have been in my cocoon transforming into a beautiful butterfly that’s just about ready to spread her wings and share her beauty with the world.

My metamorphosis isn’t near complete yet… let’s be real, I don’t know that it will ever be complete.. but I know that I can take your hand and help you through the ups and downs of healing your heart so that you’re able to truly embrace love for yourself, others and step out to begin shining your light for all to see.

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Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

“Children should be seen and Not heard”



Have you ever heard that expression? 

I

 remember my grandma saying that was the belief of the older generation when she was growing up. 

When she told me this I was in complete disagreement. Even as a teen, I knew that my voice as a young person was valuable. 



As an adult, I have experienced this. Being treated as a child whose opinion isn’t worth anything. 



Truth be told, I’ve felt this way for the majority of my life.

I have struggled hardcore with speaking up for myself, speaking up for the things I believe in because there is almost always someone standing right there, waiting to tell me I’m wrong. 

I

’m a work in progress but I have learned so much on this journey reclaiming my life after my traumatic childhood.

There are 3 things that have really stuck with me lately… 



1) everyone is entitled to their opinion 



2) my voice matters



3) to be witnessed in my truth, is to be loved… therefore, holding back my opinion is a disservice to myself and everyone else. 



The fact is, is that everyone has a different truth based on their own experience. That’s okay. 



After a childhood and young adulthood of being told that your opinion doesn’t matter, it takes time to come out of your shell and embrace your voice.

This sent me on a mission.. how was I going to do this!? Is there a cheat sheet? 



Well.. there wasn’t! It took me a while to put all the things I learned together but I’ve done and I created a program that walks you step by step through reclaiming your voice (and your life, for that matter) after a traumatic childhood.

It’s called “Rising from the Ashes: 90 day program”. There’s no cost to it but I know that it will help you change your life for the better if that’s what you’re going for! If that sounds good to you, start your journey now
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Reigniting the Light in Me: The Damage Caused from NOT using my Voice

Reigniting the Light in Me: The Damage Caused from NOT using my Voice
Using my voice has not been something I have done well in my life. 

I can see now the damage that it has caused. 



The earliest memory that I have is when I was a toddler. 

My dad and I were living at my grandparents house and there has been a thunder and lightening storm that had knocked the power out. It scared me and I remember my dad telling me not to cry about it… I think I was around the age of 3 or 4 at the time. 



I think that was the first time I was told to hold in my emotions. It stuck with me all through my life. 



I have been through thick and thin.. things that would have broke some people but I never let my emotions show. 



Growing up, living primarily with my grandparents I was resentful toward my parents for not wanting me. 



My mom had my brother and sister living with her and my dad chose to live with his girlfriends who often had kids so I wondered what was wrong with me. What had I done wrong that made them not love me or not want me?!?

 

I remember waiting one day for my mom to show up to take me somewhere and she never came… I was heartbroken that she didn’t show.. what had I done?!? 



Now I know that it didn’t have anything to do with me. As an adult, I can fully recognize that the way my parents showed up in my life had everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. 



I can also see the damage that not using my voice has caused in my life. There have been many times when I have not gotten the outcome I have desired because I was too afraid to speak up for myself. 



Do you ever experience that? Not expressing yourself because you fear what others might say or think about you? If so, I have created a guide to help you learn how to speak up for yourself and forget the fear of conflict.
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