How to Better your Mental Health with Authenticity

How to Better your Mental Health with Authenticity

Why does authenticity seem so hard to come by?

I’ve been listening to Matthew West’s song “Truth by Told” on repeat lately. It sings to my soul. I love the message and it got me to thinking about my own life.

I was talking with a friend earlier this week about how I’ve craved real, authentic connection for the majority of my life. A kind of connection where I feel safe to be the version of Emily I was created to be and not just the societal approved version of Emily.

It was a pretty deep conversation.

Then it occurred to me… is it other people that I’m craving the authentic connection with or is it an authentic connection to myself that I’m craving.

I think it could be a bit of both.

You see, we have all had our own level of trauma that tells us who we are is not good enough, not worthy, not loveable, not smart. In the process of these messages, it changes the pieces of our personality that we allow to shine through to the outside.

I’ve embarked on a journey that I have deemed, rising from the ashes. It’s a process where I’ve been digging threw all the layers of trauma that I’ve endured in my life and rediscovering and loving the version of me that’s been neglected for so many years.

Acknowledging the truth can be hard because sometimes it’s not what we want to hear. It’s not soft and fluffy. Burying the things that hurt can be a hell of a lot easier than dealing with them but, friend, I’m here to tell you that those emotional wounds are no different than a cut or scrape on your skin. They need air to heal. Speaking the truth is the only way to give them air.

It’s been an amazing process. Not easy but so rewarding. It’s been so refreshing to break down the wall of protection that I had built up around myself and start to love and embrace the beautiful person I was created to be.

I wrote a book on the framework that I’ve created around the process of rising from the ashes. It’s set to officially release next week but you can pre-order the ebook by clicking on the green button below.

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#1 Thing I learned from 2020: part 2

#1 Thing I learned from 2020: part 2
Owning this life— body, mind & Pinterest… this has become my new mantra..but what does that even mean?!? 

part 1 of this blog series, I talked a lot about how the mind. Today, we’re going to talk about the body aspect of my mantra.

In my last blog post, I was talking a lot about I had pushed down a lot of hard emotions and I alluded to how that impacted my physical health but I’d like to unpack that a bit more.

A build up of emotions in your body can really throw your system for the loop. When your mood is off and if you’re like me and you’ve lived in a highly stressful situation for any period of time, you may have experienced first hand what that high stress situation can do to your health. If you haven’t lived in a high stress situation, let me spell this out for you.

Alright, so, stress triggers the body to produce cortisol. Cortisol triggers your fight or flight response and when your fight or flight response is on alert, your body slows functions and bodily processes that it deems less important like digestion. When your digestion is off, that presents many challenges but mostly results in nutrient deficiency. 

Okay, how does all that translate into someone’s life? Well, for me, it meant that I had stomach/digestive issues from early on in my life. It meant that I had a severe hormonal imbalance which resulted in very sporadic and unpredictable menstrual cycles, a mood rollercoaster that I wouldn’t wish on anyone and excess weight that was and remains to be difficult to melt away.

When I started to deal with getting my mind right, it gave my body a chance to start to sort itself out as well. With less emotion being stored up, my body is using less energy on resisting the emotion and more energy on setting itself right.

All of this ties into business because I’m an entrepreneur that helps other entrepreneurial women build their businesses. If my mind and body are busy fighting themselves then there’s no room left to build a successful, kick butt business or help other women do the same.

If you’re tired of struggling with owning your life mind, body & Pinterest (or business) and you’d like to learn more about me, I invite you to join my community, Fierce & Independent Women where you will find a bunch of really great information about improving your mind, body and business.

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P.S. There’s a training in the units section that will teach you how to get started using Pinterest for your business in 5 days

From Unwanted to Shining bright

From Unwanted to Shining bright

Recently, I had an experience where my feelings were invalidated because the person didn’t understand why or how I could feel the way I am feeling and have felt throughout my whole childhood. 

If you are someone who has been adopted or raised by someone other than your parents, you will understand where I’m coming from. 

The thought process I’m being challenged with… “You were raised by people who love you, so you have no right to complain” 

Okay, I can see how someone could think this. For so long, I felt like I was massively misunderstood and like I was selfish for feeling the way I felt. What I have learned is that there is a very significant and justified reason for the feelings I have about my childhood. 

I have found that this is a largely misunderstood topic so let me break it down for you. 

We are all born with a mother and a father. It was intended by the universe for those two people to raise the child. There is a very strong bond between mother and child. 

So, when the mother makes the choice to not raise her child and allow someone else to do it, or maybe she’s unable to care for the child for whatever reason, the separation from the mother is a very traumatic event… even IF it is fairly peaceful. 

I have battled against many, many complicated feelings as I grew up. Now, as an adult, I am grasping the concept but I am still very much in a learning curve.

However, make no mistake… my feelings toward my childhood are no indication of being ungrateful towards the people who raised me. It is because of those people that I am the person that I am today. They gave me the foundation which gave me a fighting chance.

If you’re like me and you weren’t raised by your parents but you were taken in or adopted by loving people, your feelings are valid. You aren’t ungrateful or disrespectful for feeling unworthy, unloveable or anything else because your blood chose not to be part of your life. If you’re ready to move out of that feeling of defeat and move into a feeling of empowerment, check out my complimentary community on Facebook “defeat to empowered: Women reclaiming their lives after childhood trauma”  

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

“Children should be seen and Not heard”

Have you ever heard that expression? 


 remember my grandma saying that was the belief of the older generation when she was growing up. 

When she told me this I was in complete disagreement. Even as a teen, I knew that my voice as a young person was valuable. 

As an adult, I have experienced this. Being treated as a child whose opinion isn’t worth anything. 

Truth be told, I’ve felt this way for the majority of my life.

I have struggled hardcore with speaking up for myself, speaking up for the things I believe in because there is almost always someone standing right there, waiting to tell me I’m wrong. 


’m a work in progress but I have learned so much on this journey reclaiming my life after my traumatic childhood.

There are 3 things that have really stuck with me lately… 

1) everyone is entitled to their opinion 

2) my voice matters

3) to be witnessed in my truth, is to be loved… therefore, holding back my opinion is a disservice to myself and everyone else. 

The fact is, is that everyone has a different truth based on their own experience. That’s okay. 

After a childhood and young adulthood of being told that your opinion doesn’t matter, it takes time to come out of your shell and embrace your voice.

This sent me on a mission.. how was I going to do this!? Is there a cheat sheet? 

Well.. there wasn’t! It took me a while to put all the things I learned together but I’ve done and I created a program that walks you step by step through reclaiming your voice (and your life, for that matter) after a traumatic childhood.

It’s called “Rising from the Ashes: 90 day program”. There’s no cost to it but I know that it will help you change your life for the better if that’s what you’re going for! If that sounds good to you, start your journey now

Reigniting the Light in Me: My journey from Stuck to Freedom

I felt stuck for YEARS. 

I spent so much time searching for that one way that would help me to release the weight of my trauma and finally stop lugging it around with me everywhere I went. 

I spoke with physiologists, therapists, counsellors but I wasn’t getting the help that I truly desired.

Eventually, after years of talking… I got really tired of talking. I was tired of recounting the horrors of my childhood to people who didn’t really try to hide the fact that they didn’t really care.

So.. I stopped talking. It was all fine and dandy at first but then I started to have stomach troubles and I started to have anxiety and bouts of depression.. I didn’t like the person I was becoming.

I wasn’t okay with how I was feeling so I made my mind up that I had to find a way to solve it for myself.

This was the beginning of a very long, rewarding journey that I’m still walking today, as I write this.

When I started down this path, I felt alone and like I was the biggest mistake to have ever graced this Earth.

Now, I know that I am here for a reason.. (you are too, by the way) and that my existence is on purpose. I have so much to offer this world… (you do too, by the way). 

It hasn’t been easy. 

A friend of mine said something absolutely beautiful and SO on point. She said “You can’t grow until you prune. You have to cut off the dead weight.” 

Are you carrying around the weight of your trauma with you everywhere you go? Are you ready to prune it away so you can finally grow into the beautiful person you were meant to be?

I’ve got a free Facebook community called “Defeated but ready to thrive 25+ women” where I am helping women just like myself, walk the path I’ve walked. In there I have a free program that walks you from feeling stuck to freedom. If you'd like, head over and
join us... if you're not quite ready, no biggie.
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