Why Changing Your Life Is The Best Possible Scenario

Why Changing Your Life Is The Best Possible Scenario

Metamorphosis.

Have you ever stopped and really considered just how amazing the concept of metamorphosis is?

I mean, really?

It’s the process where a caterpillar transforms from a caterpillar into a butterfly or moth.

Both are complete in their own right but the caterpillar can only go so far and a butterfly or moth can only go so far. Together, they create a beautiful journey.

This is a beautiful comparison to think of when you think about big life change.

When you’re someone who has lived life one way for a long time and then an event changes everything for the better and you change to fit into this new version of yourself.

I’ve been on a metamorphosis journey over the past number of years. Perhaps even before I realized I was changing.

I carried my childhood trauma with me everywhere I went and in some ways I still do. It has shaped the person I have become.

For a long time, I used it as a shield to protect me from more bad things (and good things) from happening.

It took me a long time and a lot of heart work to see that my childhood and my shield were like my caterpillar stage. They served a purpose but they could only take me so far.

Over the past few years, I have been in my cocoon transforming into a beautiful butterfly that’s just about ready to spread her wings and share her beauty with the world.

My metamorphosis isn’t near complete yet… let’s be real, I don’t know that it will ever be complete.. but I know that I can take your hand and help you through the ups and downs of healing your heart so that you’re able to truly embrace love for yourself, others and step out to begin shining your light for all to see.

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It's for women looking for a safe place to step into their best, most confident self.
It's for women who are done with excuses, hiding and procrastination and are on a mission for answers to feeling their best.

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Is Rising Up Really Worth It?

Is Rising Up Really Worth It?

Crossroads.

They tend to be an interesting place to be… especially if you don’t have a map or you’re in unfamiliar territory.

But that’s where you find yourself.

Life has been tough up to this point, you’ve figured out how to survive but you’ve had the realization that you don’t want to keep living this way. You need to make some changes in order to get the life you desire.

Those changes are out of the normal for you and the people in your circle but you know that they have to happen in order to dig yourself out of the misery.

These changes could mean that your friends and family begin to judge you and question you.

They could mean that you start to look at life from different perspective than anyone you know does.

Which leads you to asking yourself, “is it really worth it?”

Well, if you stop and think about how your life has been to this point and how much better it could be if you actually follow through with these changes that will get you the life you desire then they’re likely worth it.

It all really depends on how strongly you’re committed to your vision. Is the vision you’re holding for your life one that excites you? And by excites, I mean, you’re driven to make it happen.

You may have a fear of making these changes and then the people in your circle begin to drift away.

Let’s just call it… some of them WILL but those that really love you will stick around. Not only will they stay, but they will cheer you on in your journey to the life you desire.

The thing about looking for support outside of yourself is that people tend to mirror what you’re thinking but maybe don’t want to admit. Which is why it’s so important for you to have a vision that you can get excited about.

If you liked what you just read and you're wondering how you can begin your journey, come hang out in the Mama's Rising Above community!

It's a community for women who are sick of not feeling well, sick of feeling hopeless and powerless in their own life.

It's for women looking for a safe place to step into their best, most confident self.
It's for women who are done with excuses, hiding and procrastination and are on a mission for answers to feeling their best.

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Why it’s Time to Break the Chains of Generational Childhood Trauma

Why it’s Time to Break the Chains of Generational Childhood Trauma

Generational Childhood Trauma…

It sounds big and bad because it is.

Our society has done a really good job at not talking about it. We just ignore it in the hopes that it goes away.

Which it doesn’t because what you ignore, just continues.

But it’s time to stop ignoring it. It’s time to say enough is enough.

I am on a mission to end generational childhood trauma. Not just in my own family but for millions of families around the world.  I am here to educate and empower because when we know better, we can do better.

Let’s first get really clear on what generational childhood trauma is so that we’re all on the same page.

One way that generational childhood trauma happens is when generation after generation hands their unprocessed trauma down to each new generation through parenting methods, limiting beliefs, behaviours and other interactions. This is done either intentionally or unintentionally.

Kids are smarter than adults often give them credit for. They are very much like little sponges. They are constantly observing how the adults in their lives interact with each other, how they treat themselves, how they speak, etc. and they mirror that behaviour.

Another way that generational childhood trauma happens is through our DNA. Have you ever heard the expression, “your biography creates your biology”?

Unprocessed trauma is stored in your body systems and is manifested in physical health issues when you don’t allow those emotions to be expressed as emotion.

So, what now?

We heal.

When we do the work to empower ourselves, we’re also do the work to empower others. When we say enough is enough, we are breaking the curse of trauma on our families.

Hurt people don’t have to hurt people. They can make a new choice.

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It's for women looking for a safe place to step into their best, most confident self.
It's for women who are done with excuses, hiding and procrastination and are on a mission for answers to feeling their best.

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From Unwanted to Shining bright

From Unwanted to Shining bright

Recently, I had an experience where my feelings were invalidated because the person didn’t understand why or how I could feel the way I am feeling and have felt throughout my whole childhood. 


If you are someone who has been adopted or raised by someone other than your parents, you will understand where I’m coming from. 


The thought process I’m being challenged with… “You were raised by people who love you, so you have no right to complain” 


Okay, I can see how someone could think this. For so long, I felt like I was massively misunderstood and like I was selfish for feeling the way I felt. What I have learned is that there is a very significant and justified reason for the feelings I have about my childhood. 


I have found that this is a largely misunderstood topic so let me break it down for you. 


We are all born with a mother and a father. It was intended by the universe for those two people to raise the child. There is a very strong bond between mother and child. 


So, when the mother makes the choice to not raise her child and allow someone else to do it, or maybe she’s unable to care for the child for whatever reason, the separation from the mother is a very traumatic event… even IF it is fairly peaceful. 


I have battled against many, many complicated feelings as I grew up. Now, as an adult, I am grasping the concept but I am still very much in a learning curve.

However, make no mistake… my feelings toward my childhood are no indication of being ungrateful towards the people who raised me. It is because of those people that I am the person that I am today. They gave me the foundation which gave me a fighting chance.


If you’re like me and you weren’t raised by your parents but you were taken in or adopted by loving people, your feelings are valid. You aren’t ungrateful or disrespectful for feeling unworthy, unloveable or anything else because your blood chose not to be part of your life. If you’re ready to move out of that feeling of defeat and move into a feeling of empowerment, check out my complimentary community on Facebook “defeat to empowered: Women reclaiming their lives after childhood trauma”  


If you liked what you just read and you're wondering how you can begin your journey, come hang out in the Mama's Rising Above community!

It's a community for women who are sick of not feeling well, sick of feeling hopeless and powerless in their own life.

It's for women looking for a safe place to step into their best, most confident self.
It's for women who are done with excuses, hiding and procrastination and are on a mission for answers to feeling their best.

Click here to join the community