Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

“Children should be seen and Not heard”



Have you ever heard that expression? 

I

 remember my grandma saying that was the belief of the older generation when she was growing up. 

When she told me this I was in complete disagreement. Even as a teen, I knew that my voice as a young person was valuable. 



As an adult, I have experienced this. Being treated as a child whose opinion isn’t worth anything. 



Truth be told, I’ve felt this way for the majority of my life.

I have struggled hardcore with speaking up for myself, speaking up for the things I believe in because there is almost always someone standing right there, waiting to tell me I’m wrong. 

I

’m a work in progress but I have learned so much on this journey reclaiming my life after my traumatic childhood.

There are 3 things that have really stuck with me lately… 



1) everyone is entitled to their opinion 



2) my voice matters



3) to be witnessed in my truth, is to be loved… therefore, holding back my opinion is a disservice to myself and everyone else. 



The fact is, is that everyone has a different truth based on their own experience. That’s okay. 



After a childhood and young adulthood of being told that your opinion doesn’t matter, it takes time to come out of your shell and embrace your voice.

This sent me on a mission.. how was I going to do this!? Is there a cheat sheet? 



Well.. there wasn’t! It took me a while to put all the things I learned together but I’ve done and I created a program that walks you step by step through reclaiming your voice (and your life, for that matter) after a traumatic childhood.

It’s called “Rising from the Ashes: 90 day program”. There’s no cost to it but I know that it will help you change your life for the better if that’s what you’re going for! If that sounds good to you, start your journey now

Reigniting the Light in Me: My journey from Stuck to Freedom

I felt stuck for YEARS. 



I spent so much time searching for that one way that would help me to release the weight of my trauma and finally stop lugging it around with me everywhere I went. 

I spoke with physiologists, therapists, counsellors but I wasn’t getting the help that I truly desired.

Eventually, after years of talking… I got really tired of talking. I was tired of recounting the horrors of my childhood to people who didn’t really try to hide the fact that they didn’t really care.

So.. I stopped talking. It was all fine and dandy at first but then I started to have stomach troubles and I started to have anxiety and bouts of depression.. I didn’t like the person I was becoming.

I wasn’t okay with how I was feeling so I made my mind up that I had to find a way to solve it for myself.

This was the beginning of a very long, rewarding journey that I’m still walking today, as I write this.

When I started down this path, I felt alone and like I was the biggest mistake to have ever graced this Earth.

Now, I know that I am here for a reason.. (you are too, by the way) and that my existence is on purpose. I have so much to offer this world… (you do too, by the way). 

It hasn’t been easy. 



A friend of mine said something absolutely beautiful and SO on point. She said “You can’t grow until you prune. You have to cut off the dead weight.” 



Are you carrying around the weight of your trauma with you everywhere you go? Are you ready to prune it away so you can finally grow into the beautiful person you were meant to be?

I’ve got a free Facebook community called “Defeated but ready to thrive 25+ women” where I am helping women just like myself, walk the path I’ve walked. In there I have a free program that walks you from feeling stuck to freedom. If you'd like, head over and
join us... if you're not quite ready, no biggie.

What Causes Hormone Issues, Anyways?!?



Alrighty, so last week I talked about what hormone issues ARE so this week I’m going to break it down further and we’re going to talk about what CAUSES them.

In short, hormone imbalances are caused when your endocrine glands aren’t functioning properly… but if I were to leave it there you’d still have a TON of questions so let’s continue to break it down.. 



Why might your endocrine glands NOT work as they are intended?!? 



Well, this answer isn’t as cut and dry as you might think because there are several sources to this problem. 



I’m going to talk about 3 of the sources because if I took time to talk about every single one, this blog would go on forever and well.. I don’t have that kind of time and neither do you! 



1. Endocrine diseases



Yeah, if you have an endocrine disease like diabetes or thyroid troubles that means that your endocrine system isn’t functions properly to begin with so the chances that you’re going to have another problem with your endocrine system is likely. 



2. Poor Diet/ Chronic Stress



Remember the saying “You are what you eat”?? Well, it’s true. If you’re consuming a diet of highly processed, “fake” foods, your body isn’t getting the nutrients that it requires to function properly, it will do just that! It will not function properly.



Stress does terrible things to the body! When you are chronically stressed out, your nervous system is on high alert meaning that your body is putting more effort into the calming itself down than doing other tasks like digest your food. I’ll discuss more about stress management in future blog posts, but for now… know that when you’re stressed, your body struggles! 



3. Exposure to Endocrine Disrupting chemicals. 



Maybe you’re familiar with endocrine disruptors and maybe you aren’t (I have attached a video where I explain how they work above) but what’s important to know about these, is that they do terrible things to the body and in our society, we are exposed to them at a faster rate than our body can clear them out which causes our bodies to become overrun with them.



This is the second of a month long series of blog posts. Next week, I’ll dive into what issues can be caused by a hormone imbalance. But for now, if you’d like to learn more about how to get balanced and live your best life NOW, check out my free Facebook community “Defeated but Ready to Thrive 25+ women” and join in on the conversation! 

What are Hormone Issues, anyways?!?



It has become apparent to me over the past few years that most women are unaware of the role their hormones play on the function of their body.

 

I know for myself, I didn’t have a clue until I started to educate myself when my husband and I were trying to conceive our first child. Up to that point, I was ignorant to the whole process.

I knew that once a month I was supposed to have a period and that it was inconvenient and painful.

Yeah. True story.

What I’ve learned since then is that, the process is far more complex and irregular cycles is only one sign of a hormone imbalance.



Some other indicators could be wonky blood sugar, blood clots, headaches, oily skin or acne, anxiety or depression, dark hairs, loss of libido, water retention, weight gain and the list goes on…



So one thing to recognize about hormones is that they are distributed around the body by the endocrine system. If you don’t know what the endocrine system is, you’re not alone.

I have come across many people in the last few years that didn’t know about it. 

I would encourage you to learn about your endocrine system. I have linked a video above that will help you on that journey. I’ll wait a minute so you can watch it… 



Okay, now that we have that covered, when your endocrine system isn’t working properly for any given reason.. there are genetic reasons but most people suffer from environmental reasons… they have a hard time pin pointing that they are actually dealing with hormone issues because the symptoms can appear to be caused from another source.

If this is the path you’re walking right now, I completely understand how frustrated you can be when you know something isn’t right but you’re having a hard time finding the answers.

It’s especially frustrating when your ability to grow your family is directly connected to those answers. That’s why I made a guide about how I got pregnant with low progesterone.. with the hopes that I can take some of the frustration out of it for someone else.

Reigniting the Light in Me: The Damage Caused from NOT using my Voice

Reigniting the Light in Me: The Damage Caused from NOT using my Voice
Using my voice has not been something I have done well in my life. 

I can see now the damage that it has caused. 



The earliest memory that I have is when I was a toddler. 

My dad and I were living at my grandparents house and there has been a thunder and lightening storm that had knocked the power out. It scared me and I remember my dad telling me not to cry about it… I think I was around the age of 3 or 4 at the time. 



I think that was the first time I was told to hold in my emotions. It stuck with me all through my life. 



I have been through thick and thin.. things that would have broke some people but I never let my emotions show. 



Growing up, living primarily with my grandparents I was resentful toward my parents for not wanting me. 



My mom had my brother and sister living with her and my dad chose to live with his girlfriends who often had kids so I wondered what was wrong with me. What had I done wrong that made them not love me or not want me?!?

 

I remember waiting one day for my mom to show up to take me somewhere and she never came… I was heartbroken that she didn’t show.. what had I done?!? 



Now I know that it didn’t have anything to do with me. As an adult, I can fully recognize that the way my parents showed up in my life had everything to do with them and nothing to do with me. 



I can also see the damage that not using my voice has caused in my life. There have been many times when I have not gotten the outcome I have desired because I was too afraid to speak up for myself. 



Do you ever experience that? Not expressing yourself because you fear what others might say or think about you? If so, I have created a guide to help you learn how to speak up for yourself and forget the fear of conflict.
 
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