#1 Thing I learned from 2020: part 2

#1 Thing I learned from 2020: part 2
Owning this life— body, mind & Pinterest… this has become my new mantra..but what does that even mean?!? 



In 
part 1 of this blog series, I talked a lot about how the mind. Today, we’re going to talk about the body aspect of my mantra.

In my last blog post, I was talking a lot about I had pushed down a lot of hard emotions and I alluded to how that impacted my physical health but I’d like to unpack that a bit more.

A build up of emotions in your body can really throw your system for the loop. When your mood is off and if you’re like me and you’ve lived in a highly stressful situation for any period of time, you may have experienced first hand what that high stress situation can do to your health. If you haven’t lived in a high stress situation, let me spell this out for you.


Alright, so, stress triggers the body to produce cortisol. Cortisol triggers your fight or flight response and when your fight or flight response is on alert, your body slows functions and bodily processes that it deems less important like digestion. When your digestion is off, that presents many challenges but mostly results in nutrient deficiency. 



Okay, how does all that translate into someone’s life? Well, for me, it meant that I had stomach/digestive issues from early on in my life. It meant that I had a severe hormonal imbalance which resulted in very sporadic and unpredictable menstrual cycles, a mood rollercoaster that I wouldn’t wish on anyone and excess weight that was and remains to be difficult to melt away.

When I started to deal with getting my mind right, it gave my body a chance to start to sort itself out as well. With less emotion being stored up, my body is using less energy on resisting the emotion and more energy on setting itself right.

All of this ties into business because I’m an entrepreneur that helps other entrepreneurial women build their businesses. If my mind and body are busy fighting themselves then there’s no room left to build a successful, kick butt business or help other women do the same.


If you’re tired of struggling with owning your life mind, body & Pinterest (or business) and you’d like to learn more about me, I invite you to join my community, Fierce & Independent Women where you will find a bunch of really great information about improving your mind, body and business.


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P.S. There’s a training in the units section that will teach you how to get started using Pinterest for your business in 5 days

#1 Lesson from 2020: Part 1

#1 Lesson from 2020: Part 1
Owning this life— body, mind & Pinterest… this has become my new mantra..but what does that even mean?!?

Well, I’ve been on this amazing journey this year. I’ve been learning a ton and growing even more! 



I think we can all agree that 2020 has forced us to open our eyes. We have no longer been able to be distracted by all the busy that life can give us… and I have to admit that for me, personally, it has been really easy to bury my head in the busy of life rather than dealing with the hard stuff over the year. 



Do you know what happens when we do that… or at least what happened to me?

I pushed all the hard stuff down and I built a very, VERY high wall around me emotionally… that didn’t do any favours for me either. I went from this happy go lucky 5 year old to this closed off and depressed 14 year old and I stayed that closed off and depressed person for WAY TO LONG! Let’s say like, something handy to 15 years... 




But what happens when you don’t deal with the emotional stuff?!?

It comes out somehow...

If dealing with feelings as feelings isn’t going to happen, they’re going to come out as physical issues… Yeah, you read that right but we’ll get into that next time! 



2020 has given me SO MUCH time and the resources to process those emotional things so that I could start to break down the wall I had constructed around my heart. 



Friend, I’ve discovered that when my mind is right then a lot of other things just fall into place. 



Check this out… Those pictures below tell a story. 


The one on the left is me at the beginning of my journey. I was frustrated, depressed, and fed up. I knew what I wanted but I didn’t have a clue where to start. The one on the right is me just a couple of hours ago. I am full of joy and I have a clear purpose in my life. 



I’ll share more about this lesson in future blogs but for now, if you’re ready to own your life body, mind and Pinterest.. come check out my free community

From Unwanted to Shining bright

From Unwanted to Shining bright

Recently, I had an experience where my feelings were invalidated because the person didn’t understand why or how I could feel the way I am feeling and have felt throughout my whole childhood. 


If you are someone who has been adopted or raised by someone other than your parents, you will understand where I’m coming from. 


The thought process I’m being challenged with… “You were raised by people who love you, so you have no right to complain” 


Okay, I can see how someone could think this. For so long, I felt like I was massively misunderstood and like I was selfish for feeling the way I felt. What I have learned is that there is a very significant and justified reason for the feelings I have about my childhood. 


I have found that this is a largely misunderstood topic so let me break it down for you. 


We are all born with a mother and a father. It was intended by the universe for those two people to raise the child. There is a very strong bond between mother and child. 


So, when the mother makes the choice to not raise her child and allow someone else to do it, or maybe she’s unable to care for the child for whatever reason, the separation from the mother is a very traumatic event… even IF it is fairly peaceful. 


I have battled against many, many complicated feelings as I grew up. Now, as an adult, I am grasping the concept but I am still very much in a learning curve.

However, make no mistake… my feelings toward my childhood are no indication of being ungrateful towards the people who raised me. It is because of those people that I am the person that I am today. They gave me the foundation which gave me a fighting chance.


If you’re like me and you weren’t raised by your parents but you were taken in or adopted by loving people, your feelings are valid. You aren’t ungrateful or disrespectful for feeling unworthy, unloveable or anything else because your blood chose not to be part of your life. If you’re ready to move out of that feeling of defeat and move into a feeling of empowerment, check out my complimentary community on Facebook “defeat to empowered: Women reclaiming their lives after childhood trauma”  


Can’t get pregnant?? How I figured out my hormones were stopping me

Can’t get pregnant?? How I figured out my hormones were stopping me
I remember being so frustrated. I knew something was wrong but I couldn’t find a doctor that would listen. It also didn’t help that I couldn’t convey accurately what I was feeling or experiencing.. I also didn’t know exactly what I was looking for.

I just knew that I was tired of feeling like crap.

This led me to doing A LOT of research to figure this thing out. I had reached the point where I wasn’t getting any concrete answers from my doctor and I was getting pretty tired of getting dismissed.

I mean, I only live in my body… I don’t actually know anything about it..

In my research, I was learning a lot about how my endocrine system is responsible for regulating all of my hormones.

I learned that if my endocrine system isn’t working properly then it kind of throws my whole body for a loop because it’s all interconnected.

I learned that wonky hormones can cause a whole host of health issues. Some serious (like cancer) and some just annoying (like hair loss and weight gain).

I learned that the most obvious things, like an irregular cycle, is only the tip of the iceberg.

The good news is, that I was able to support my hormones so they started working with me instead of against me. I did this completely naturally.

I was really surprised with how quickly it worked. It was completely gentle on my body… no more putting my body in a headlock making it do something that it was created to do. It was time to listen to what my body was telling me and give it the love that it was asking for.

If you’re looking to start loving on your body and giving it the support that it’s asking you for, check out my free guide
“How I get pregnant with low progesterone” and start listening to your body.. I promise it’s telling you what it needs, you just need to listen.

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

Reclaiming my Voice After a Traumatic Childhood

“Children should be seen and Not heard”



Have you ever heard that expression? 

I

 remember my grandma saying that was the belief of the older generation when she was growing up. 

When she told me this I was in complete disagreement. Even as a teen, I knew that my voice as a young person was valuable. 



As an adult, I have experienced this. Being treated as a child whose opinion isn’t worth anything. 



Truth be told, I’ve felt this way for the majority of my life.

I have struggled hardcore with speaking up for myself, speaking up for the things I believe in because there is almost always someone standing right there, waiting to tell me I’m wrong. 

I

’m a work in progress but I have learned so much on this journey reclaiming my life after my traumatic childhood.

There are 3 things that have really stuck with me lately… 



1) everyone is entitled to their opinion 



2) my voice matters



3) to be witnessed in my truth, is to be loved… therefore, holding back my opinion is a disservice to myself and everyone else. 



The fact is, is that everyone has a different truth based on their own experience. That’s okay. 



After a childhood and young adulthood of being told that your opinion doesn’t matter, it takes time to come out of your shell and embrace your voice.

This sent me on a mission.. how was I going to do this!? Is there a cheat sheet? 



Well.. there wasn’t! It took me a while to put all the things I learned together but I’ve done and I created a program that walks you step by step through reclaiming your voice (and your life, for that matter) after a traumatic childhood.

It’s called “Rising from the Ashes: 90 day program”. There’s no cost to it but I know that it will help you change your life for the better if that’s what you’re going for! If that sounds good to you, start your journey now
 
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